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May 5, 2004
Muddled Wedding
I have a question concerning wedding etiquette. If any of you know the answer, please leave a comment as I would appreciate it. Here goes: When we started our new church we met a couple there who is getting married later this month. But, back at the beginning of April this couple let it be known where they were registered. I watched as many people brought gifts in to them and thought that I should get them something also.
We bought them several things off of their registry and they were thrilled and very grateful. I’ve never heard that anyone is giving her or has already given her a shower. Anyway, she has since given me an invitation to the wedding.
Now for the question: Am I supposed to buy another gift? If I show up empty handed am I going to look bad? Also, there was no mention of a reception in the invitation, so if they have a reception am I to assume that we aren’t invited to this? Okay so that’s two questions. I don’t think that I’ve been to a wedding since I was very young and didn’t have to worry about the gift; that was mom’s job. The rules get a little muddled in my mind, so someone help me :)
Posted by tami at May 5, 2004 7:58 AM
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Tami,
No you don't have to buy another gift. You have already given them a gift. They shouldn't be expecting another one. I would just get them a card congratulating them.
Posted by: Chastity at May 5, 2004 11:29 AM
Thanks Chastity! You have a wedding coming up in your family very soon don't you? I met the bride-to-be on a Tuesday night at church when they came back from visitation. She's seems to be very sweet and very good with babies :)
Posted by: Tami at May 5, 2004 7:28 PM
Yes,
She is a very sweet & caring person. Their wedding is just a little over a week away.
Posted by: Chastity at May 6, 2004 9:07 AM
I personally wouldn't get another gift. In the UK you can purchase pretty silver horseshoes on satin ribbon which a small child (AKA Ashley)would offer to the bride during the photographs.
Posted by: lynne at May 6, 2004 11:23 AM
Ditto...Nope, no more gifts. I remember hearing correct etiquette is to do exactly as you did: give the gift before-hand, so there is not a lot of fuss for the wedding party at the wedding or reception itself. Think of having to move all those boxes!
Posted by: gw at May 6, 2004 10:03 PM